Praise for the Book

Words of Praise for Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More

“Barbara Carrellas is a brilliant writer. She has a unique way of making her readers feel comfortable exploring avenues of sexuality they have longed to know about. To Barbara, being sexual is as normal and comfortable as breathing, and she would like all of us to feel this way.”
       — Louise Hay, author of Empowering Women and You Can Heal Your Life

If you long for connection to sacred joy, to the extraordinary, and to the healing power of full aliveness, then you’ll love this book. Barbara Carrellas is a fearless teacher who will challenge you to step outside your comfort zone to find your ‘something more.’ In Ecstasy Is Necessary, she gives you permission—and a well defined path—to explore the ecstatic experiences that will make your life deeply satisfying.”
       — Cheryl Richardson, author of You Can Create an Exceptional Life

“Barbara Carrellas’s remarkable book, Ecstasy Is Necessary, is destined to be a classic. Not only does she gently guide you into the realm of supreme sensual joy and fulfillment, but simply reading her book is an ecstatic experience. Highly recommended!”
       — Denise Linn, author of Secrets and Mysteries: The Glory and Pleasure of Being a Woman

“As I read this book, I am in awe. Quite frankly it is one of THE most brilliant books written on sex and relationships. Barbara gives all of us hope and guidance. A brave pioneer in this genre.”
       — Mona Lisa Schulz, M.D., Ph.D., author of The Intuitive Advisor

Barbara Carrellas is a true visionary. This is a masterful, engaging work of art that combines profound and expansive ideas about sexuality with really practical, useful exercises that everyone can do. As you wrap your mind, body, and spirit around these exciting concepts, Barbara is there every step of the way—a wise, generous, reassuring voice helping you through a radical process of transformation. Yes, this book will give you the tools to create a bolder, more authentic and satisfying sex life, but it goes much deeper: it’s a road map for living a fuller, more conscious and joyful life.
       —Tristan Taormino, author, Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

“Way to go, Barbara! You’ve done it again: bringing out the exact book we need for these troubled, and troubling, times. Cultivating ecstasy as a spiritual practice, far from being selfish or shallow, allows us to live more fully in the world, with energy and love to spare, and share. More, please!
       — Nina Hartley, author of Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex

Barbara Carrellas is the world’s best ecstasy coach. She makes taking a walk on the ‘wild side’ sensible, simple, and safe. Let her guide you not only into divine ecstasy, but also into more integrity, better communication, and deeper satisfaction. Barbara’s prescriptions for ecstasy are also a great strategy for countering harmful addictions. This book may be the best investment you’ll ever make. Talk about bang for your buck! Breathe with Barbara, then hold on tight and surrender to ecstasy. Just say ‘yes!’”
       — Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., sex educator, ecosexologist, artist

This informative, fun, irreverent book was a joy to read. It teaches us to open to ecstasy, embrace our bodies, spirits, and our lives. Barbara is a joyous teacher who helps her readers empower their deepest sensual selves.”
       — Judith Orloff M.D., author of Positive Energy 

In 1990, when Barbara appeared in my first Bodysex Workshop video, I had no idea she would go on to become a sexual pioneer in her own right. I’m thrilled! In her new book, Ecstasy Is Necessary, readers will find important, unexpected doorways to undreamed-of sexual pleasure.”
       — Betty Dodson, Ph.D., author of Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving

“Chinese Medicine teaches that the vitality of our spirits depends on our ability to experience joy, the height of which is pure ecstasy. But so many of us have lost our connection with this magic, and the light in our hearts has dimmed as a result. Barbara Carrellas is the perfect guide to help you reignite this sacred fire. Her grounded, open-hearted, and respectful approach leads you to discover your own personal ecstasy. This is an important book!
       — Jean Haner, author of The Wisdom of Your Face

“In Ecstasy Is Necessary, Barbara Carrellas offers a definitive guidebook for travelers in expanded erotic awareness. Information on breath, energy, communication with others, communication with yourself, gender, love, and much, much more will give you all the ingredients you need to cook up your own individual path to ecstasy, and to discover your own amazing genius for dancing in Eros. Carrellas has given us a beautifully adventurous and useful work; be prepared to journey in delight just reading this lovely book.
       — Dossie Easton, marriage and family therapist, co-author with Janet Hardy of Radical Ecstasy and The Ethical Slut

“Anybody who’s climbing the pyramid of heightened erotic response—whether they’re climbing up the side marked ‘Tantra’ or the one marked ‘BDSM’ or any of the others—will eventually discover that sexual ecstasy is indistinguishable from any other peak experience, that the genital is only a fraction of the wholeness of ecstasy, that an orgasm is the same thing as a laughing fit is the same thing as a storm of tears. Very few ever manage to put that realization into words, and fewer still have done it as concisely, clearly, and beautifully as Barbara Carrellas in Ecstasy Is Necessary. This book is essential reading for anybody trying to attain new levels of intimacy and intensity, not only in their sex lives but in their lives as a whole.
       — Janet W. Hardy, co-author of Radical Ecstasy and The Ethical Slut

“Ecstasy Is Necessary is necessary for anyone who wishes to lead a life of sexual adventure, exploration, and self-discovery, filled with ecstatic potential. Barbara Carrellas is an amazing guide and a delightful companion. She uses her own experience and deep knowledge to light the way, so that the reader can feel entirely safe, even when entering territory that may seem dark and foreboding, for it is in this territory that surprise and delight can often be found. Barbara’s work is essential reading for anyone who wants to lead an ecstatic life, and indeed for anyone who wishes only to live a happier one.
       — Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson, authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment

“Lesbians, gays, bisexuals, trans folks, and queers have been gathering under an ever-increasing and unwieldy alphabet moniker. Finally—thanks to Barbara Carrellas’s new book—there’s one letter that includes all of us and more. All sex and gender-positive people can claim E for ecstatic!”
       — Kate Bornstein, author of A Queer and Pleasant Danger

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